They're exactly what another person finds attractive, appealing, and lovable. If we were all the same, we'd end up bored with one another. It's in learning to love and embrace our own uniqueness as well as our partners, that leads to full and lasting love.
Sometimes these differences can lead to disagreements and even annoyances. But as you learn to understand these differences and embrace them, it expands your ability to love the person you're with. It not only expands your relationship, but also your ability to love as well. To do this, you have to be willing to take the chance of being yourself - showing others your imperfections. Remember, your perfect imperfections are just that - perfect for who you are in the world. When you're fully you, all of the things that make you unique, come out. It means letting go of any judgments you might have, not only about yourself, but about your partner. It's a process and takes time. The payoff though, is a deep and lasting love.
Why let your true self shine?
When you allow your true self to shine, you give the world a glimpse of your talent, your uniqueness, and what is different about you. In a world where so many things are the same, it's a breath of fresh air when someone really lets their true self shine through. It also gives other people in your life, not only a great example, but permission to be themselves as well. Dare to be you. You'll be surprised at the results.
Your perfect imperfections make you interesting
Think about the times you've met someone who has a career or background that's completely different from anyone you've ever met. Don't you find this person intriguing and interesting? They have unique experiences you can learn about. It's the very idea they've been or done something you aren't familiar with, that makes them interesting!
People are forever reading about celebrities and what they're doing in their lives. This fascination again, stems from the fact that they're different than most people. Many of them have quirks which people find attractive. These celebrities have learned to embrace who they are and even capitalize on it. When you take the chance to show yourself, people feel how genuine you are. There's a magnetism to it. And allowing your spouse to see this side of you gives them the opportunity to love you for who you really are.
In their book, Be loved for who you really are Judith Sherven and her husband, Jim Sniechowski explore how our differences add to our relationships - making them fuller. They discuss the 4 stages of love. From the "honeymoon" phase, to the 2nd and 3rd stages where challenges and differences come up. They give you a blueprint on what to look for, and how to navigate through these challenging stages. You learn to love your partner for all of their uniqueness. Finally, if you grow and work through the 2nd and 3rd stage, you reach the 4th and final phase This phase is one of a full and lasting love that also includes the spark and freshness of the "honeymoon" phase. At this stage though, it also includes the depth of all aspects of love, allowing you to be loved for who you are.
So go ahead. Embrace your perfect imperfections and show the world and the people around you your unique self.
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