Take Action and Be Willing To Make Mistakes

To live a full and vibrant life you have to be willing to take action.  Take action and be willing to make mistakes.

You're going to make mistakes - It's part of the game

Anything worth doing comes with mistakes.  You can’t do anything great if you aren’t willing to push the envelope at least a little in what you’re capable of doing.  If you play it safe and only do what you’re good at, it’s boring.  You don’t challenge yourself to see exactly what you can do in life and you certainly don’t grow as a person.

Take a chance.  When an idea comes to you, go with it.  Explore the possibilities.  At least learn what you can about it - the process, the ups and downs of doing it.  Only then can you make a conscious decision if it’s something you want to pursue.

What will your life be like in 5 yrs if you don't take a chance?

Think of this.  If you don’t try anything new or step outside your comfort zone, what will your life be like in say 3 yrs?  What about 5 yrs?  Does the picture look promising?  Be hones with yourself.

Life is for living.  For putting yourself into what you do, full force and with passion.  I don’t care if you’re outside raking the leaves. Engage in it and enjoy what you can about it.  Find the bright side to it and let yourself drop into that.  It could be:
1. You’re exercising
2. It’s a beautiful, breezy day (if you like breezes)
3. You’re making your place look better.  It feels great to have a neat yard.

Whatever it is, whatever you’re doing, find a way to make if fun, or at least enjoy some aspect of it.  If you cant, DON’T do it!  Find a way to put the fun into all of your efforts.  If you can’t find anything that’s fun, maybe you need a reality check on how you view things.

There's nothing wrong with reality checks

We sometimes need a wake up call to show us where we’re just coasting - not reaching our full potential.  Sometimes life pulls you off course and you don’t notice you’ve fallen into a kind of rut.  It’s easy to fall into the same kind of thought patterns.  It happens.  Not a big deal. Find a way to get back on course.  Read something inspirational.  Take a course. Hire a coach.  Do whatever it takes to get back in the game - full out with all of you engaged.  You might even consider implementing ways to do a check on your thoughts, moods, and actions from time to time.  

Do what works for you

The best thing you can do for yourself is to set up a strong system that supports your success.  A system that keeps you in alignment with your strengths, abilities, and creativity.  What you bring to the world is important and makes a difference for everyone around you.  Find what works for you and then do it, courageously.

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Choose Wisely The People You Surround Yourself With

The people in your inner circle, the ones closest to you, have a profound effect on you.  Your success, your mood, and the choices you make in life.  Because of this, be discerning.  Choose wisely.

Do your friends root you on?

How do your friends respond to your successes, setbacks, or when you tell them about a goal you're going for?  Do they root you on, say they believe in you, or if you've had a setback, tell you that you'll do better next time?  

Or do they:
  • Point out where you're going to fail?
  • Tell you they never thought it was a good idea to begin with
  • List all the reasons why you shouldn't do it
  • Do they feel compelled to tell you every way imaginable the ways in which it could go wrong?
Someone giving (asked for), and constructive criticism is different than a person being critical or closed-minded towards a new idea or venture.  Don't mistake the two.  The person who's in your corner is giving you constructive ways to look at something.  Someone who's criticizing you is just pointing out everything you're doing wrong - in their eyes. 

Choose wisely so you're inspired by the people around you - it helps!

When the people around you are going for their own goals, pursuing their dreams or passions, it can be motivating.  Sure, sometimes we look at someone and think, "Gee, I wish my life was going as well.", especially if you're going through a rough patch.  But in the end, it demonstrates what's possible.

It's also a great example for you. What can you learn from their effort, their courage in pursuing what they want, and the steps they've taken?  It's easier to follow another person's example of how they've been able to follow through, or dealt with challenges, than it is if you didn't have this example.

The best friends are the ones who support you, but who also call you on your stuff

There's nothing more valuable than a person who (lovingly) tells you where you're not living your full potential.  Not someone who criticizes you, but someone who says," Hey, what's going on with you?  I know you're capable of doing better."  And if you're going through a challenging time, they're willing to listen and let you talk it through.  

Choose wisely - it makes a difference

Choose wisely.  The best friends are the ones who celebrate your success, believe in you as a person, and help you get back on your feet when life knocks you down.  Accept nothing less in your life.

Your Life Experiences - It's Your Choice To Decide What You Do With Them

In life we're presented will all sorts of situations, relationships, and challenges.  How you react to them, what you take away from them in terms of life lessons, is entirely up to you.

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It's Your Choice 

Will you let them mold in ways that don't benefit you?  Will you allow them to create a smaller version of yourself?  Or will you decide they don't define you and you'll do what it takes to learn from them and rise above them?  It's your choice.  The decision, while not always an easy one, is up to you.

Choose to view your challenging situations as a learning tool for yourself


Part 1 - Acknowledge exactly where you're at.  What are you feeling?  Disillusioned, depressed, angry, or rejected?  There all kinds of valid emotions that come up when we're faced with a challenging situation or relationship.  Any emotion you feel is valid.  Right here, right now, realize that, and if your tendency is to downplay how you feel, stop it.  If you pretend you aren't feeling what you're experiencing, you lower your ability to effectively deal with what's going on and to let go of it once and for all.  Don't do that to yourself.

But what if my emotions feel too intense?

There's a reason people avoid their emotions.  Our emotional responses can be intense. It's a valid concern because most of us were never taught how to quickly and effectively deal with our emotions.  This is where EFT, or The Emotional Freedom Technique comes in.  I use this technique with my clients, along with a combination of FasterEFT and Ask & Receive as a way to completely collapse the intensity.  This way the client is able to quickly move into a place of empowerment, choice, and taking action.  They've dismantled the hold these emotions have over them and they're able to think and react from a better place.

When you drop into a calmer state, you can objectively step back and decide what, if anything you can take away from the situation.  You're given the opportunity to make choices that are in your best interest and that keep you from feeling stuck in any situation.  Give yourself this gift - the gift of being able to accurately assess where you're at without getting caught up in overwhelm. Then make the decisions or choices that are best for you.

If you want to explore what emotions are holding you back and how to release them, book a complimentary call. We'll discuss your goals and how you can achieve them. 

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Let Go of Past Mistakes and The Hold They Have On You

Hanging on to past mistakes only slows you down.  If you focus on past mistakes, it keeps you from moving forward with ease and from accomplishing what you want. 

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You make mistakes when you take a chance on growth 

If you aren't making mistakes, you're playing it safe.  You aren't pushing yourself to be the best you can be.  Part of growing as a person, is taking a chance and making mistakes.  You have to take calculated risks to see what you can achieve in life.  When you make a mistake, realize you need to look at another avenue.  That's all a mistake is.  Tell yourself, "I went this way.  It didn't work out. Regroup and change direction or change tactics."  

Mistakes don't define you - They inform  you

So you tried something and it didn't work out.  Good for you for having the courage to try.  Now take an objective look at it and see what you can learn from the results.  Where can you  make tweaks? Do you need to scrap the whole project or goal?  Is it something that can work out with some changes? As you look at ways of changing it, or moving on, you learn what works for you and what doesn't. This way you don't have to repeat the same mistake.

Put your focus on moving forward - Not staying in the past

Once you've decided what changes you need to make, let go of the mistake!  Don't keep going over it again and again.  And do NOT beat yourself up for having made a mistake.  

From a logical approach, realize staying stuck in an emotional tape loop causes you to become afraid of trying anything else.  It also zaps you of your energy and enthusiasm.  Ask yourself - "Is this the best use of my time and my thought process?  Or am I better served by learning to let it go, forgiving myself, and focusing on how I want to proceed from here?"  

You'll realize your time and effort is much more productive by letting go of any need to beat yourself up over it.  Beating yourself up is:

  • Not going to motivate you
  • Not going to keep you from making other mistakes because that's how you learn
  • Not going to create enthusiasm for any other projects you want to do
What it will do is keep you stuck in one place and prevent you from moving forward.  It can stop you dead in your tracks from accomplishing what you want to do in life.  Is that really in your best interest?

Do what works for you to let go of being stuck in the past

Whatever method works for you to move on from your mistakes, do it.  EFT and FasterEFT are great tools I use with clients.  They help to acknowledge your feelings about a mistake or results you hadn't wanted,  so you're able to let it go. It's important you honor your emotions because then you can quickly move through them.   With them out of the way, you can then calmly take away any information or knowledge from the experience. 

Be willing to take the time to work through the emotions in an efficient manner and then get on with your dreams and your life.

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To learn about letting go of emotions that hold you back, book a complimentary call. I'm happy to answer any questions you have about the process I use and to discuss your goals.

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Surround yourself with people who challenge you to be yourself

To be happy, successful, and content in life, surround yourself with people who not only accept you exactly for who you are, but who demonstrate the willingness in their own life to fully express who they are.  These are the people striving to be the best person they can be - a person who fully embodies their truth.  When you're around people like this, they inspire each other to live their truth - fully alive.

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with"

The people you surround yourself have an effect on you - more than you imagine.  As John Rohn, the American entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker stated, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with".  In my own life, and in my work I've seen how true this is.  

When you're around people who really go for it in life, you're inspired to do the same.  When one of you has a setback, the other people or person encourages you to get up and try again.  It's through their words and their example that you're encouraged. 

What we observe affects how we act

Art Markman, P.H.D, wrote an article  in psychology today, on how infants were influenced in their actions by what they saw - just by viewing pictures of people.  In a study, infants were shown different photographs.  The infants who were shown a photograph of more than one person, even when those people weren't looking at each other, reacted differently than the infants who were shown photographs of only one person in the picture, or images that didn't look at all like people. 

The infants shown the photos of two people together, would later help an adult pick up something that the adult had dropped.  They were much more likely to help and interact with the adult.  The infants who viewed the other photographs didn't help at all.

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If the behavior of infants is affected simply by photographs of people, imagine the impact your closest friends, family, or significant other have on you when you're interacting with them in person. Especially on a daily basis.

You're wired to fit in - why it's important

Humans have an innate need to fit in and be accepted by the group.  We've evolved as social animals and are biologically wired this way.  Being accepted represents survival to us on a very basic level.  Because of this wiring, we conform in order to fit in, both in a conscious way and an unconscious way.  The need to conform can lead to anxiety when we don't feel like we belong. We'll even go out of our way, subconsciously to sabotage our success in an effort to belong to our group of peers. Because of this wiring, the people you spend the most time with have a profound effect on your life.  

If what you want in life is to be able to fully express who you are - the strengths, gifts, and desires you want to bring to the world, be selective in who you spend the most time with.

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Healers, Intuitives, Sensitives - Fully Own Your Power

Healers, intuitives, and sensitives, the time is here to fully own your power.  To work in conjunction with what you have access to.  Not in a way that is outside of yourself, but in a way that brings it into the physical body where it remains.


No Longer View Source as Something Outside of Yourself

There are many powerful energy workers and people who work in the area of healing work.  What they tap into, Source, The Universe, God, whatever is a person's own belief, has been thought of as outside of ourselves. The higher energy outside of ourselves is called different names.  For the sake of simplicity, I'll refer to it as Source.

We are all a part of Source energy.  To believe it only resides outside of us lowers our ability to fully work with this energy.  When you connect in and set the intention that it always flow through you, you have more ability to help create greater change in the world.  By setting this intention, you declare your own part in the creation of change.  You in essence, own your power.

Your Job is to Have the Clearest Emotional, Mental, and Physical Body

If you look at Source as "over there", "above me", etc, you are in essence saying, "I'm not worthy". As my guides have said, "You are all worthy.  Your job is to do the work on your emotional, mental, and physical bodies so you can access and hold more of this energy.  That is your work.  When you're clear, you allow in more of what's needed at this time.  This is what's meant, in part, as "Heaven on Earth."  You're bringing the Divine into physical reality."

When we speak about Source energy, the norm is to refer to it as separate from us.  As outside of us.  But we all are a part of Source energy.  To create more powerful changes in this world, changes that are truly needed at this time, you need to own the part of you that is Source.  Expect more support. Call in more support.  Intend that Source dwells within you and flows through at all times.

As people who work with energy, or others who pray or meditate, the tendency is to connect in with Source only when you're doing that - instead of always being connected in, flowing it through your body, and accepting that this is not only possible, but a good thing.  If you feel Source is outside of you, you lower your ability to create real change. Dare to explore what comes about when you invite in Source to reside within  your physical being.

Access All Parts to Be More Effective

We are being asked to call this in.  To allow it to live in our physical bodies where the flow becomes even more effective.  We're living in the physical world. It's great to talk about how amazing it feels to connect into the Divine and the wisdom that is available to us all.  But if we're not anchoring it into our physical beings where it can more easily interact with the rest of the physical world, we're doing ourselves and the rest of the planet a disservice.

When you combine Source energy with the physical body, you have access to all parts of creation and you become even more effective.  By calling in and owning that you are a part of Source, you raise your vibrational worthiness.  You're declaring your intention and your worth, which sets into motion a more powerful response.  You magnetize your energy and your intentions to help bring about positive change, and The Universe responds.

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Don't Ignore Your Feelings - They Tell You What's Important

Don't ignore your feelings.  They tell you what's really true for you.  They're also the road map to your fulfillment and happiness.


Too often we're told to "Get over it.  Forget about it", or "Don't focus on it, it'll only bring you down."  People mean well when they give this advice, and there is truth to focusing on happiness or at least feeling calm.  But first you have to discover what your emotional response is trying to tell you.  Otherwise you bypass what you can learn.  You also bury the emotions deep within your body where they aren't forgotten, only silenced for the time being.

Not only that, but more importantly, you send the message to your brain that "Your emotions aren't important", which equates to, "I'm not important."

Think about it.  If a part of you, your reaction to something you experience, isn't important, then underneath that, how can you be important?  This is the message you send to yourself over and over again when you pretend you don't feel a certain way.  It actually undermines your ability to be happy.

But Aren't Emotions Messy?


Sometimes.  But the other side of it is, when you bury them, they only fester and come out later. Usually in either an over-the-top way, or even as an illness or ache in your body.  There are techniques and tools where you can quickly move through your emotions without feeling traumatized by them.  I use EFT and FasterEFT as a way to help clients acknowledge and quickly move through what they're experiencing.

Both of these techniques very quickly lower the intensity of what someone is feeling.  EFT also helps bring awareness to the person about the entire problem.  When the brain drops into this calm state, it gains an understanding about the situation and how to move through it.  It also knows exactly what steps they might need to take.  I've seen people come to amazing insights. They incorporated all parts of themselves and came up with a conclusion that worked for them. 

Don't Be Afraid of Emotions

Emotions are here to stay.  They're what make you feel alive.  Many people struggle with
"Not feeling passionate about anything.  Or they'll say,  "I wish I knew what I was passionate about."  
The more you "practice" something, like burying your emotions, the more the feeling of "being numb"becomes your default.  It closes down your capacity to feel alive. Your mind doesn't suddenly switch from ignoring emotions to feeling them.  Whatever you practice, whether consciously, or unconsciously, you become good at.

If you want to feel passionate about life and feel fully alive, you have to be willing to acknowledge all of your emotions.  The idea is to experience them in a way that feels safe for you.  A way that supports you finding out exactly what you need to know.  In this way, you can let go and move on with all parts of you, releasing these emotions so they don't come back to haunt you.

If you want to explore which emotions are holding you back and learn to release the hold they have over your life, book a complimentary call. 

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