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Committing 100% to Achieve Your Goals

Try committing 100% to what you want and see the results in your life




If you want anything in your life, and you want to achieve it with as much ease as possible, you have to be in complete alignment with it.  This means, you need to be able to commit 100% to having it .
If reaching your goal isn't 100% congruent with your beliefs, you'll end up sabotaging the results in some way.

As author, Denise Linn is fond of saying, "The soul loves the truth".  So does the rest of our being - from our bodies to our minds.  If we somehow harbor beliefs about whether or not we deserve something, are "good enough" to achieve it, or even that "no one in my family has ever had or done this", we won't be able to accomplish what we set out to do. We'll find ways of sabotaging ourselves.  It can be something as simple as missing an appointment, or not noticing when the perfect opportunity shows up to help you. But by becoming completely in alignment with your goals and desires, you'll find yourself more aware of the steps you need to take. You'll also find there's much less struggle involved.  Suddenly you'll find yourself saying "yes" to a meeting, or proposal that supports what you're trying to accomplish.  If, in the past you had the belief that "I don't deserve this", you might have turned down those opportunities because you didn't believe enough in yourself.

If you're looking for more ease in accomplishing your goals, then I suggest you take the time to explore this.  If you can be completely honest with yourself, you might find there are a few reasons you hadn't been aware of, that stand in your way.  Once you identify them, the next step is to remove them.

Is it easy? Not always. But as you practice this everyday, it becomes more of a habit.   Try it.  See if you can identify the important things you'd like in your life.  Your "noble truths" as they've been called, or your "true values".

Once you've identified them, check on how much you're committed to having them in your life. If it's not 100%, explore what it is that keeps you from being able to commit.  Are there old beliefs from your life?  Maybe messages from parents, siblings, or teachers?  Whatever they are, choose to change or release them from your belief systems.

Two of the tools I use when working with clients, is by using  EFT and/or FasterEFT.  This technique helps access the subconscious mind. This is the part of the mind where any thoughts or limiting beliefs are stored. When you know what the blocks or beliefs are, you can do the work to get rid of them.  EFT is an excellent tool for doing this. It helps to move quickly through them and release them for good.



Some basic examples of beliefs that hold people back are:

  1. Life is hard
  2. I don't deserve this
  3. Nobody in my family has ever done this - who do I think I am?
  4. It will take too much time or effort
  5. My life is too complicated to be able to do this

The list goes on and is personal to each person's life experience.  The above examples are just a few to help you start thinking.

If you want to identify any blocks you could be holding on to, find a time when you won't be interrupted.  Sit down with a piece of paper and write down any messages you heard growing up that might be the culprits.  Anything a teacher, parent, or older sibling could've said. These are usually said with absolute conviction and were meant as a way to help you be responsible in life. Unfortunately, these are the very messages holding us back most times.

Some of these messages also come in the form of what we've observed about our lives or other people's lives. If you take the time to do the work regarding this, you'll be rewarded with better results and more success.

Once you're able to commit 100%, not only will your awareness open up to different possibilities and ways to achieve success, but your determination will also grow.

I hope you'll dare to explore what it is that truly brings you joy and then commit 100% to having it in your life.








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Build Trust in Your Relationships - Communicate Honestly



The people I value the most in my life are the ones who tell me the truth.  These are the ones who have the courage to communicate honestly about how they feel, where they're at in life, and if I'm doing anything to upset them. They also feel comfortable telling me how much they care about me.

Communicate Honestly


Sometimes we're afraid to tell our friends or even our family how much they mean to us.  Maybe we're afraid we'll feel foolish doing it, or they'll take it the wrong way.  But what if something happens, to either of you, and you never took that chance? Would that be ok with you, if this were the case?When we're able to be honest with another person, in essence, you're saying, "I trust you and care enough about you, to be willing to express who I am and how I feel." It takes courage to do.

Live Courageously


I try my best to live courageously - as do my closest friends.  We have an unspoken, and sometimes spoken agreement, to be completely honest in how we feel.  It takes a lot of pressure off the relationship. Neither of us has to worry about whether or not we've done something upsetting that the other person hasn't told us about.  We don't worry that unspoken words will lead to resentments. There's a wonderful feeling of freedom between us because we operate this way.  We trust the other person to hear what we have to say without feeling as if they're being attacked or criticized. There's an understanding we have that says, "I know you're a fantastic person who always tries to do the best they can."  So if we have to tell them there's something they've done which felt hurtful to us, or any other uncomfortable emotion, they know we aren't doubting their integrity as a person.  We also aren't saying we don't care about them or find them flawed as a person.  We're merely giving them a chance to talk about our interaction. We care enough about the person and the relationship we have with them, to work out any misunderstandings.  We care enough to put aside our fears and have the courage to speak up.

We also know the other person wants to hear what we have to say. That we value their opinion and we're willing to hear if there's anything we've done to create the misunderstanding.

When you communicate honestly, you build trust within your relationships


When there's this much trust within a relationship, there's the ability to care deeply for another person. When I have this level of communicating, I'm able to open my heart and take the chance of loving deeply and freely.  I don't worry that my feelings will get hurt. Yes, people make mistakes and say or do things that can come across as hurtful. But when the people in your life care about you and your heart, they take responsibility for their actions and their words.  If someone says something that hurts your feelings, be willing to talk about it. Ask them if it's what they meant and let them know how it felt to you.  If you don't do this, you allow resentments to build. It could've just been a miscommunication.  Or there might be something you did to upset them, and it was the only way they could express it at the time.  It's about caring enough about a relationship to talk to the other person.

When I speak to someone about a situation that upset me, I give them the opportunity to express how they felt, and what they meant.  I'm also giving them the chance to see how it came across. They might choose to change how they interact - or not. It's up to them, but at least I've cared enough about them, and about me, to let them know. It really comes down to how much are you able to care about yourself and care about another person.  Can you express yourself without resorting to anger?  Can you let them know something was upsetting, while at the same time, being respectful towards their feelings? I'm willing to be wrong about a situation, but if I never talk about it, then I'll never know if I perceived something incorrectly. If something isn't discussed, resentments build and relationships fall apart.

How much are you able to put yourself out there - with honesty?


My feeling is. if I care enough about someone to have them in my life, then I owe them the best I can give. Which means being honest with them - when they do something I like, as well as when they do something that I don't like.

If you respect and care enough about a person, then learn to build a relationship where you trust them enough to show who you really are.  When there's honesty in a relationship, whether a friendship, a family member, or your romantic partner, the ability to be yourself grows.  When you feel this way, you're able to fully trust them with your heart. You're comfortable showing them who you are. They're worthy of your trust. If we can create more relationships in our lives like this, we support other people in having the confidence to be themselves and to show the world who they are.







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What are my values?

I've had people say, "What are my values?  And why would I need to know them?"

If you want your life to be fulfilling and less stressful, then you want to be doing what resonates with you as a person.  When you understand what your core values are, you can make choices that are in alignment with what's important to you.  The end result is you have more ease in your life.

If you don't know what your values are, you're liable to find yourself heading in the wrong direction and struggling to find happiness.  You'll feel at odds with your life or career choice if your values don't line up with what you're doing. If you don't know what your core values are, you'll be making decisions in your life that aren't necessarily in your best interest.




What exactly are values?


There are different types of values.  Core values, as defined by Your Dictionary are fundamental beliefs of a person or organization.  Personal values, according to Wikipedia, are " relative in that they differ between people, and on a larger scale, between people of different cultures." There are also absolute values which are independent of individual or cultural views.  The values we're talking about  here are personal core values - what's important to you?  What are the things you can't live without?

The importance of understanding and identifying your own values, is that it helps you structure your life in a way that's better suited to who you are.  It helps define whether or not a certain career or even a relationship is a match for you. If you understand your values, it's much easier to make decisions about something when it presents itself to you.

If family is important to you and you're offered a job all the way across the country or overseas, this goes against one of your core values. But if freedom, adventure, or financial stability are also important, then, depending on the job, you might consider it. If the job were only a 2 yr stint with great pay and the chance to travel, it might be a fit. When you determine which of these values are more important than the others, you can make the best decision. You might be more willing to do something short term, if it matches some of your values, but not all of them.

"What are my values and how do I define them?"


Now that you understand how values can impact your life, you're probably wondering how to define them.  To start with, what's important to you?  What are things you just can't live without?  Is it important for you to make a difference in the world?  Do you value growth and learning?  Start to define what makes you happy as well as what bothers you.  When you know what you don't like, it usually tells you what you do like.  For example, if it bothers you when someone treats a waiter unfairly, then you'd know that either "fairness" or "kindness" are things you value.

You can begin to make a list of what you consider your values.  Don't worry about placing them in any particular order. Once you have the list, then you can go back and determine which ones are at the top of your list.  By doing this, you'll then have a blueprint of what's important to you. When faced with a decision, you'll have a better understanding with what lines up with your true needs and beliefs. 

List of Values


The following is a list of some values. While this is only a small list of values, these are examples to get you started thinking about what's important to you.

  1. Abundance
  2. Acceptance
  3. Balance
  4. Beauty
  5. Being fit
  6. Eating health
  7. Have peacefulness in your life
  8. Going after challenges
  9. Spending time in nature
  10. Cooperation
  11. Courage
  12. Freedom
  13. Growth
  14. Happiness
  15. Helping others
  16. Love
  17. Loyalty
  18. Responsibility
  19. Security
  20. Trust


Spend some time defining your values and you'll find decision making much easier than before.

When you're ready to take your life to the next level, or you just want to move through a current challenge, book a complimentary call.  We can discuss your goals and see if we're a mutual fit. 


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Your perfect imperfections

Your perfect imperfections are just that - perfect!  They make you unique and they make you lovable.




They're exactly what another person finds attractive, appealing, and lovable.  If we were all the same, we'd end up bored with one another.  It's in learning to love and embrace our own uniqueness as well as our partners, that leads to full and lasting love.
Sometimes these differences can lead to disagreements and even annoyances.  But as you learn to understand these differences and embrace them, it expands your ability to love the person you're with.  It not only expands your relationship, but also your ability to love as well.  To do this, you have to be willing to take the chance of being yourself - showing others your imperfections.  Remember, your perfect imperfections are just that - perfect for who you are in the world.  When you're fully you, all of the things that make you unique, come out. It means letting go of any judgments you might have, not only about yourself, but about your partner.   It's a process and takes time.  The payoff though, is a deep and lasting love.

Why let your true self shine?

When you allow your true self to shine, you give the world a glimpse of your talent, your uniqueness, and what is different about you.  In a world where so many things are the same, it's a breath of fresh air when someone really lets their true self shine through. It also gives other people in your life, not only a great example, but permission to be themselves as well. Dare to be you.  You'll be surprised at the results.

Your perfect imperfections make you interesting




Think about the times you've met someone who has a career or background that's completely different from anyone you've ever met.  Don't you find this person intriguing and interesting?  They have unique experiences you can learn about.  It's the very idea they've been or done something you aren't familiar with, that makes them interesting!
People are forever reading about celebrities and what they're doing in their lives.  This fascination again, stems from the fact that they're different than most people.  Many of them have quirks which people find attractive.  These celebrities have learned to embrace who they are and even capitalize on it.  When you take the chance to show yourself, people feel how genuine you  are. There's a magnetism to it.  And allowing your spouse to see this side of you gives them the opportunity to love you for who you really are.

In their book, Be loved for who you really are  Judith Sherven and her husband, Jim Sniechowski explore how our differences add to our relationships - making them fuller.  They discuss the 4 stages of love. From the "honeymoon" phase, to the 2nd and 3rd stages where challenges and differences come up.  They give you a blueprint on what to look for, and how to navigate through these challenging stages. You learn to love your partner for all of their uniqueness.  Finally, if you grow and work through the 2nd and 3rd stage, you reach the 4th and final phase This phase is one of a full and lasting love that also includes the spark and freshness of the "honeymoon" phase.  At this stage though, it also includes the depth of all aspects of love, allowing you to be loved for who you are.

So go ahead.  Embrace your perfect imperfections and show the world and the people around you your unique self.

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Maintaining a healthy relationship - by putting it first


If your desire is to have a healthy relationship, one that's lasting and meaningful, you have to put the relationship first.  This means putting it first over your own momentary feelings. Over your ego, the fear-based self, or your hurt feelings. And over what others might tell you to do.  First off, I never advocate staying in any relationship which is abusive or controlling. That isn't what I'm talking about here.  What I'm referring to are relationships between two emotionally healthy individuals.

Relationships


A relationship is an ongoing interaction with anyone, whether with your spouse, your child, or a close friend.  Anyone you relate to on a continuing basis is in a relationship with you - even the mail carrier. But especially with your significant other.  These are the people we're open with and trust our hearts to.   If you want the people in your life to remain open and caring towards you, you have to be gentle with their hearts.  Which means putting the relationship first and caring enough about the other person, where you're able to respond to them respectfully and in a caring manner.  Even when they've completely ticked you off.



Our past affects how we relate to others 


We all enter into relationships with past baggage.  The hurts and disappointments we've experienced through life.  This can't help but color how we view other people or interactions.  Even if we've done the work to release those past disappointments, being human means we'll always have some sort of work to do in those areas. Life goes on as we continue to interact with people on a daily basis.  Which means there are new misunderstandings and challenges that continue to come our way from time to time.

If we have experiences where we've been hurt, how then do we maintain loving relationships?  How can you have something happen between you that comes across as hurtful, but still be able to put the relationship first?  If you do decide to put the relationship first, it means taking the time to step back and take a breath before you react negatively towards your loved one. You consciously decide that the relationship is more important than your need to lash out or react poorly towards the other person. This isn't easy, to say the least. But if you aren't able to cultivate this behavior and react in a mean or angry way, it chips away at the other person's ability to keep their heart fully open and loving towards you.  They learn to protect themselves by shutting off a little more each time something like this happens.  Ask yourself if ultimately, this is what you want?




Remember - we're all doing the best we can


We're all doing the best we can. Even when it doesn't appear to be that way.  If you can take the time to try and understand why the other person did or said what they did, maybe you can be more caring towards them when you talk to them about what's on your mind.

As a basic example, imagine you're driving down the road and a car flies past you and cuts into your lane. You have no idea why this person did this, the general response is to become angry or put out.  But, what if the other driver was a man who's wife was in labor? Or he just got a call one of his children was in emergency room?  If you were in that situation, you might also be driving fast to get to the hospital and maybe not being as courteous as you could be on the road. We have no idea why another person does what they do.  In the case of a relationship, if it's someone you love, there's obviously something lovable about them.  When you can take a breath and not react, maybe you can remember exactly who that person really is and why you love them to begin with.    If you're able to care enough about them, you realize you don't want to hurt them. You have the opportunity to choose between reacting angrily or giving them the benefit of the doubt to ask them what was going on.

Yes, this is asking a lot in many instances.  It means you have to step away from your ego and your self-interest at times and see if you can be the bigger person.  When you're able to speak to another person when it's not in the heat of the moment, you stand the chance of showing another person you care about them.  Many times you'll find out it had nothing to do with you at all.  Maybe they had a rotten day and they overreacted towards you. Maybe they've been under a lot of stress and just lashed out.


The question to ask yourself is, "Am I willing to begin destroying a relationship over how I respond to this situation?"  Because over time, if you continue to react negatively, you will, in the end destroy a relationship.

Learn to express yourself with respect and kindness


It's important to express how the situation felt for you.  Find ways to do it in a  respectful way. If you have trouble doing it, learn the skills necessary. The other person also needs to be receptive to this as well.  It takes time and practice for some people to do this. There might be times when one, or both of you won't be able to do it.  Remember what's at stake here. The trust of the other person and their ability to stay open towards you.  If you're in  a romantic relationship, you'll especially want to learn this skill so you're both able to maintain the same level of intimacy with each other.


If you want to learn how to let go of past experiences that keep you from having true intimacy in your life, book a complimentary call.  We'll discuss your goals and see if we're a mutual fit. 


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Emotional Freedom Technique. What is it?

 Emotional Freedom Technique.  What is it and how is it done?


eft emotional freedom technique chart
  


EFT, or the Emotional Freedom Technique is a way to lower the intensity of any emotion or past trauma.  As Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT gains more popularity due to it's great success in many different areas, more and more people are hearing about it and using it.  From being able to alleviate, or completely eliminate all sorts of complaints. to weight loss, and even reducing physical pain, EFT is giving relief to many people.   EFT is changing people's lives.  Anything from fears, traumas, and even weight loss and abundance.. It's been been shown to help with just about anything you try it on. And the best part is it's simple and works with ease.

There are two ways in which the Emotional Freedom Technique helps.

  • It reduces the intensity of an emotion, and in most cases alleviates it completely.  
  • It helps to change limiting beliefs into supportive beliefs.  This is my favorite use of EFT.
What I've seen in my practice, is that once a person's awareness or reaction to something changes, it changes how they respond.  The change is usually immediate and can also trickle in over the next few days.  Whereas in the past they might react in a certain way, they now have the confidence and awareness to respond in a positive way that supports them.   If someone has a low self-worth, once they've worked with the Emotional Freedom Technique and changed the beliefs they had about themselves, they suddenly are no longer willing to accept poor treatment from others. They value themselves in a way where they speak up when something isn't fair or doesn't feel right. Even the actions in life they take are from a place of self-confidence.

How The Emotional Freedom Technique Helps change Limiting Beliefs


The other effect the Emotional Freedom Technique has, is when someone changes their awareness or beliefs, they have a different way of being, a different vibe about them.   If you're familiar with the theory that  "Like attracts Like", in the world of manifestation, then you know emotions have been said to have vibrations. How we vibrate around a certain issue, whether it's lack of money, fear of water,  or low self worth, can determine what we're attracting to ourselves.  When we change our vibration, it changes what comes into our life.

On a practical note, what we expect to happen, usually does because we're actually programmed by our beliefs to accept something that perhaps another person wouldn't. Because of past programming, we're more open to letting in difficult situations.  We aren't as apt to notice or deal with a negative situation as it's forming.

When you rid yourself of limiting beliefs with the help of EFT, you're  suddenly more aware of new possibilities. You're no longer closing them out due to  filters created by your  past experiences.   If you have the belief, "I have to work hard to make money", then you close yourself down to the possibility of thinking outside the box - or coming up with new, easier ways to make money.  Or you might pass up a job that looks "too easy" thinking it won't be something worthwhile.  If it's in a field that you actually love doing, that would be much easier than doing something you didn't like, there can be a tendency to dismiss it because it isn't "hard to do".  Doing something you love can take effort, but if you love it, it doesn't feel like work.

What Exactly is the Emotional Freedom Technique?


So, what is the Emotional Freedom Technique?  It's a form of acupressure based on the same energy meridians used in traditional acupuncture which are used to treat physical and emotional ailments - only without needles.  It helps to clear any blocks from the body's 'electrical 'system. The technique was developed by Gary Craig and has evolved into other uses and techniques that originally weren't used.  People are now using it to:

  • attract the love of their life
  • to increase their abundance
  • work on addictions
  • release past traumas and the effects they have on your life
  • and even to deal with physical aches and pains. 
As more and more people use it successfully, the awareness of just how many things it can help is emerging.

New Study Shows Emotional Freedom Technique Lowers Cortisol Levels


According to PubMed, a scientific study examined the changes in cortisol and psychological distress symptoms of 83 subjects who received a single, hour long intervention.  The subjects were randomly placed in one of 3 groups.  A group receiving EFT.  Another group receiving typical psychotherapy work, and a 3rd group receiving no treatment.

The group using EFT showed statistically significant improvements in anxiety (decrease of 58.34%), depression, (decrease of 49.33%), and overall severity of symptoms, (decrease of 50.5%). The EFT group also experience a significant decrease in their cortisol level (the  hormone released into the body under stress).  Their improvement was a drop of 24.38%, compared to the talk therapy group, (decrease of 14.25%), and No Therapy group (decrease of 14.4%)

It's simple to do


Simple tapping with the fingertips is used on specific meridians on the head, face, and chest while you think or talk about a specific problem.  These include, but aren't limited to addictions, traumatic events, phobias and fears, even weight loss.  Each acupuncture point is linked to certain organs and emotions within the body.  It works to clear the "short circuit" from your body's energy system, thereby restoring your mind and body's balance.  But it does much more.  It quickly accesses the subconscious mind where our memories, thoughts and beliefs are stored.  When faced with any situation, the programming or beliefs of the subconscious mind always wins out over the conscious mind.  This is why traditional talk therapy many times doesn't work to change a person's emotional state around a certain issue.




Sometimes some people are wary of the principles that the Emotional Freedom Technique is based on.  The electromagnetic energy that flows through the body and regulates our health has only recently become recognized in the Western World.  Keep in mind that an EKG measures exactly this in the heart - the energetic electrical pulses of the heart.

Over my years in practice, I've witnessed miraculous shifts in people through EFT.  To see someone walk out of my office in complete relaxation and peace of mind, compared to how they initially walked in, is truly wonderful to see.

The basics to learning EFT are learning the tapping locations and technique, as well as what to say during the rounds.  Many problems have been dealt with, successfully, by applying EFT.  The more specific you can be about an issue you're working on, the more success you'll have - and in a shorter amount of time.  The key to being successful with EFT, is to be precise with what the problem is.  The more precise you can be, the more success you'll have.  Because of this, oftentimes, it's better to work with an EFT practitioner.  This is especially true if you're not getting the results you want, or your issues are around a traumatic event. Keep in mind that if you're working on an issue that is deep-seated, or something that was ongoing for an extended period of time, there will be layers to it.  This needs to be dealt with gently, and usually over several sessions.


EFT Tapping 


The basic EFT tapping sequence is straightforward and generally takes people only a few minutes to learn. My clients have the advantage of being shown the tapping points in person, but you should be able to pick up these points relatively quickly. With just a little practice, you should feel comfortable performing each round in a minute or so.

NOTE: While it's important to tap the correct area, you don't need to worry about being absolutely precise. Since you'll be using several fingertips at once to tap, you'll be covering the general area. What's more important is being able to identify the exact issue or problem. The more precise you can be about it, the better your results.

Understanding EFT tapping 


The first thing to understand is that you will be doing the EFT tapping with your finger tips. There are a number of acupuncture meridians on your fingertips.  Generally, you would use 3 or 4 fingers held together.  While you're tapping with your fingers, you're also activating the meridians in your fingers.  The acupuncture lines also run up your arm, thereby giving the added benefit of activating these points as well.

Traditional EFT tapping has you tap with the fingertips of only one hand, but you can tap with either hand, both hands at the same time, or switch back and forth between hands. It's what feels right for you. I find that with particularly old or deep issues, I prefer tapping with both hands or at least switching back and forth so both sides of the body points are activated.  By switching to different hands, you're activating each side of the brain.

If you wear glasses or a watch, it's helpful to remove them prior to tapping.

How to do EFT Tapping - the sequence


This is a brief explanation of how the process is done.

  • Start by rating the intensity of the problem.  Give it a score from 1-10, with 10 be the highest level of intensity.
  • Then begin on the Karate point, or the Sore Spot point - whichever one feels right to you.
  • While tapping on the above point, state the problem.  This is usually done 3 times in a variety of sentences
  • Then go to the problem, continuing down the points, talking about the problem
  • After you've finished a few rounds, ending up at the top of the head, recheck the intensity level. I should've lowered. 
  • You'll repeat the process, starting at the set up phrase, which could have changed with your results from before and then continue with your rounds.
  • The idea is to get the intensity down to a "1" or "0".
The easiest way to learn EFT is by working with a professional, but there are also some excellent resources at: EFT_Universe.com


Other uses for the Emotional Freedom Technique - especially in public 


If you find yourself in a stressful situation, even one in public, you can use EFT to lower your level of anxiety or emotional response. If you're in public, merely rub the collarbone point or you can put your hands behind your back and rub the Karate chop while thinking phrases to yourself that you would normally say out loud. For EFT to work, it's not necessary to always be tapping - rubbing works just as well.

Another way to access the Emotional Freedom Technique, is to the used the simplified method of EFT, developed by Steven Welles, EFT master from Australia.

You would do the same set-up phrases and then proceed to tap on the finger points shown below:



These access EFT points through the fingers and can be used during the day even when you're driving.

Try the Emotional Freedom Technique on anything.  The uses are limitless.  Some of the things people have used EFT for, and been successful with are:

  1. weight loss
  2. manifesting
  3. physical pains
  4. phobias and fears
  5. anxiety
  6. clutter clearing
This list goes on.  It's been said, "Try EFT on anything".  If you're finding it challenging to tap on your own, you might want to work with a professional until you have the process down.

For a free downloadable EFT Mini Manual that explains the process in depth and takes you through several tapping exercises click here. 


 Best of luck and happy tapping!

If you're ready to take your life to the next level, book a complimentary call to see if I can be of service.  You can ask any questions you have and we'll determine if we're a mutual fit. 





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Doing what you love - Give yourself permission to do what you love.


Are you doing what you love in life?  Or do you find you've put aside your dreams and aspirations for different reasons?  Maybe you don't have time, or you feel you have too many responsibilities to devote to other activities. Maybe you were told as a child that "Doing what you love is only for children.  When you grow up, you have to become responsible."  If you think about it though, there are many people in the world doing what they love, and being responsible.  So it is possible.  Ask yourself how much better you'd feel if you were doing what you love?  This can be something you'd want to do as a career, or something you'd like to take up as a hobby.  Whichever it is, it doesn't matter. If it excites you or fills you with joy, why wouldn't you be doing it?




What is the price we pay for not being in touch with who we are and what we love doing on the deepest of levels?  When we're not doing what we love, it can feel as if a little part of our self dies. The feeling of being fully alive just isn't there.  But maybe you're not sure what it is you're passionate about.  One of the keys to getting in touch with what makes our souls sing, is to remember what it was we loved as a child.  What are the things you loved as a child, but might have forgotten?  This is a good place to start and is usually in line with your passions - even as an adult.  If you can't come up with anything, think of something you've always wanted to try, but haven't done yet.  What are the reasons you haven't tried it yet?  What's one thing you can do that puts you more in touch with what you love?  Do you have the courage to try something different?  If not, why not?  Maybe you were told "that's for children", or "it's a "waste of time"?

Don't let fear stand in the way of doing what you love


Fear is one of the things that can stand in our way of experimenting and just taking a chance.  As we mature and go through life, there's a tendency to shut down and shut out all of the things which brought us real joy.  This can happen from disappointments or not being able to achieve the goals we've set for ourselves.  If you find you have some fears around taking a chance, try to examine them and see if you can let them go.  If you're having trouble releasing them, this is where an EFT session can be helpful.  The unbiased view of another person can help to unravel what keeps you stuck in fear or hesitation when it comes to taking a chance.

It's been said the key to knowing our true destiny is to follow our hearts. What brings us joy is ultimately what we're meant to be doing.  It's the barometer for our lives.

I've found the things we're most afraid of, tend to be the things which bring us the most growth and feelings of accomplishment when we work at doing them.  Someone once said, "Don't die with the music inside".  If we hold back our gifts and what really makes our hearts sing, we're not only robbing ourselves of joy, but also the entire world around us. Think of the benefits if everyone explored their dreams.  How many more discoveries would happen?  How many more beautiful works of art would be present in the world?  How much more alive do you think people would feel?

When I was a child, I spent hours every day looking at pictures of horses and ballet dancers.  I'd draw pictures of them or read about them for hours on end.  I went on to join one of the greatest ballet companies in the world.  After I retired from dancing,  I went into training horses and ended up competing and training on  a National level.  These were my dreams and I was lucky enough to have had a  mother who encouraged dreams.

Pursue your dreams


Have the courage to explore and then pursue your dreams.  It seems that whatever we love is what we're meant to be doing - even when it doesn't make sense to anyone else.  The people who are the most successful at their careers, are the ones who follow their dreams with pure passion.  Nothing stands in their way.  There's an aliveness to them.  It's contagious and inspiring.


One of the things you can do for yourself is to surround yourself with people who are pursuing their dreams and passions.  People who understand how important it is to follow your dreams.  It's a wonderful way of supporting your growth and happiness.  When you're surrounded by people like this, there's more of a tendency to feel comfortable and inspired to do what you love.  Each of you supports each other just by having the enthusiasm to live life in this manner.




 When I was growing up, I was fortunate to be surrounded by people who were passionately going after what they loved.  They were artists and dancers who wholeheartedly followed their hearts and dreams.  It was an honor to grow up around such courageous individuals.  There was no other way - it's all we knew.  What a fun time we had in the process.  Those of us who were dancers, have moved on to different careers - some includes a part of dance. Others are pursuing something in different fields.    But these same people are now successful and accomplished in other areas of their lives.  They learned at an early life to follow through - to have the courage to pursue what they loved and the discipline to see it through.  As a result, they're still following their hearts and doing something they love.

My hope is that more people will have the courage to explore their dreams and bring them out into the world.   I hope you will give yourself permission to follow what you love.

To read about defining your passion, go to: What is your passion?

 If you want to find out what blocks you from following your dreams or goals,  book a complimentary call.  We can discuss ways in which you can get rid of the blocks. 


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